How ’tangled up’ do we get ourselves with reactions and behaviours that prolong our pain and take us to an isolated place. And if we end up in that place too often, does life feel more like a struggle than a journey?
How can we break painful patterns except by thinking, speaking and writing, with curiosity, sincerity and honesty. And who has the time to listen with us, with humanity, to find our wisdom.
Do we always need diagnoses and frameworks to make sense of our pain? Workers may be too quick to ‘make sense’ of us and indicate our treatments.
What if there is critical knowledge that we didn’t get to explore? What if we missed an opportunity to open up windows of understanding?
What if all around us are comfortable and even relieved that ‘the expert’ found a diagnosis and a way of working that they can refer to with confidence, intensifying our sense of isolation.
What if ‘the space’ we need is a collaborative place, full of possibility and the message “This is your space!!”
Marguerite is a social worker (children & families and adult mental health services) who believes that the clients should be at the centre of their journey through services as an expression of "basic confidence" in human beings (Carl R Rodgers).